The Ultimate Guide to Buying a Sex Doll

Buying the right sex doll will work wonders for your personal happiness. You will grow to appreciate your doll in ways unimaginable to most people. You will develop genuine feelings and a true partnership will be created between you and her. And, of course, you will have the best sex of your life when you are fucking your sex doll. Not only because of the obvious physical attraction of high-end dolls but also because of that very same emotional connection I’m talking about.

Think passionate sex. Sex with a partner who you love and cherish. It really is incredible how far technology has come in recent years.

If you have never purchased a sex doll before, then I can tell you one thing — you WILL make mistakes at first unless you research your dolls with the utmost care. You should research your dolls as carefully as if you were choosing a heart surgeon. Buying a sex doll may not be as direct of a life-or-death type of choice, but it’s a choice that should be researched vigorously. The difference between buying the best sex doll for your needs and buying a mediocre doll is truly immense.

If you skip the research process and just pick a doll at random, then no one can guarantee you any personal happiness. In fact, you will likely become more frustrated than ever before. Not only because you spent lots of your hard-earned money on a doll that you don’t love, but most of all you will be frustrated because you could not find that feeling of connection and partnership which all successful doll owners are talking about.

Having done this mistake first-hand (multiple times, in fact), and having learned from my mistakes, I felt like it was my obligation to write an article on how I pick my sex dolls. These skills and knowledge did not develop overnight. They have been learned through a process of trial-and-error, which was, admittedly, very painful at times. I have purchased close to a dozen dolls by now, and with each purchase, I felt more confident. When I purchase a doll now, I don’t experience that feeling of guilt and skepticism anymore. That is because I am confident in my doll researching skills, and today I would like to share my strategies and ideas with you, CyberDear readers.

I’m hoping that with the help of this guide, you will avoid the same pitfalls which I fell into, and your first doll purchase will be a magnificent one. So, without further ado, let’s get right into the CyberDear guide to sex dolls. The review is split into various sections, so if you are only interested in some specific sections, then jump there using the table of contents:

What is a Sex Doll?

A sex doll, also known as a love doll, is a sex toy that resembles a real human being and is used for masturbation. Well, in reality, that’s just one part of what sex dolls are, but let’s keep it simple for now. As the name “sex doll” itself suggests, they were mainly invented to please the sexual desires of their owners.

There are numerous sex doll stores to choose from, and making the right choice is not always easy. Therefore, treat your doll purchasing choice the same as a car purchase — take some time to choose, evaluate the benefits & drawbacks of each doll — and place an order!

Who Invented Sex Dolls?

It’s commonly believed that sex dolls were invented by Hitler and the Nazi regime in order to satisfy the sexual needs of the German army during the Nazi invasion of Europe. After all, Hitler wished to keep the Aryan race pure, and if the army men started getting European women pregnant, their children would inevitably be of mixed race. To combat this, Hitler gave sex dolls to Nazi infantrymen, thus eradicating any need for soldiers to explore international vaginas. Or, well, that is what some people claim.

The truth is, however, that unlike many people think, sex dolls were likely not invented by Hitler.

Instead, it’s more likely that sex dolls were invented by lonely and lustful Dutch sailors in the 17th century. They needed some female company during long sea trips, after all. As you might already know, dolls are more than capable of providing companionship. And, after realizing the value of their invention, these very same Dutch sailors started to sell their dolls to Japan, coining the nickname “Dutch wives”.

Having Sex With a Doll — What’s It Like?

It’s amazing. No way around it. You are in total control of the sex. The vaginas of high-end sex dolls feel so realistic that you will not even feel the need for a real woman.

That could be both positive and negative, as a real female partner will obviously have her own advantages. If you get a sex doll, you will feel completely satisfied sexually. This could lead to you stop pursuing real women and stay with your silicon wife.

I know I am experiencing the same, so keep this in mind when buying a sex doll.

How to Choose a Sex Doll?

The stigma surrounding love dolls is disappearing and as a result of this, the sex doll industry is booming. There are more options to choose from than ever before, and making the right choice between all the different types of sex dolls can be a rather difficult task.

Dolls come in absolutely all shapes and forms. Starting from realistic life-size sex dolls weighing over 40 kg all the way to mini sex dolls, some of which are really tiny and lightweight. To make matters even more confusing, sex doll manufacturers have also started to sell sex doll torsos. For a fraction of a price of a full-size doll, you can purchase just the silicone ass of a premium doll!

Obviously, each of these different types has their own advantages and disadvantages, but I will try to cover all of them during this section of the buyer’s guide. Let’s start by analyzing the three main characteristics of sex dolls which set them apart from each other: the material, size (weight), and price tag.

Material

The two primary materials which high-quality sex dolls tend to be made of are:

1. Thermoplastic Elastomer (or TPE, as it’s commonly referred to as)
2. Silicone

There are also other materials, such as latex and CyberSkin, but when it comes to premium sex dolls, TPE and Silicone are the two main players in the game. Each of the two has its advantages and disadvantages, and comparing the two materials in depth deserves a full-length article on its own.

To put it simply, TPE’s main advantages are that it’s cheap and soft to the touch. If you prefer a very soft body for your doll, then you might want to consider a TPE sex doll. However, silicone undoubtedly has its own advantages. Firstly, silicone is more heat-resistant and can handle hot baths. Second, silicone is more durable and does not tear as easily as TPE. And, finally, I have found the skin of silicone sex dolls to feel noticeably more realistic than TPE.

But, there really is no “right” or “wrong” here. Unless you have experience with one of the materials already, I would suggest that you don’t pay too much attention to comparing the two. Just get a doll that has attractive features to you, and don’t get too stuck on the material choosing process (I DO advise you to go with one of the two, though — TPE or Silicone, as the alternatives tend to be rather underwhelming).

Size & Weight

Secondly, you should decide on the size and weight of the doll you want to purchase.

As I mentioned before, there are both mini and full-size versions of sex dolls. There is no international standard for when the size of a doll makes it a “mini doll”, but generally they tend to be less than 100 cm tall (~39 inches). Mini dolls are some of my favorites, because they are super easy to position around the house, and they allow for unique positions.

Some of the life-size sex dolls in my collection weigh well over 40 kg (~90 pounds) and because of this, they require significant strength and energy to move around. It is very important that you take into consideration your physical strength and energy before purchasing such heavyweight sex doll models. A heavy doll may not seem like a big deal at first glance. However, it will most certainly be a big deal when you have a heart attack while fucking your sex doll because you used 110% of your energy moving the thing around.

Unless you are very confident in your physical capabilities, I recommend you to stay below the 40 kg mark. This rules out some of the RealDoll models, but I stand by my recommendation. If you are making your first purchase, don’t go with the absolute heaviest dolls in the industry. Dolls in the 30 kg — 40 kg weight range are a good balance between realism and comfortableness, so they are a much better suit for first-timers.

As for the height of your love doll, you should take into consideration how much storage space you will have available for your doll. Mini sex dolls under 100 cm are much easier to hide and store, so if you don’t have access to a convenient storing solution like a special cabinet, then it might be a good idea to go mini. However, if you have enough room in your house to dedicate a special location to your doll (or if you are comfortable with your doll always being in bed with you), then a full-sized doll is most definitely worth considering.

In general, I still have to say I prefer life-size sex dolls. They tend to look absolutely gorgeous and during sex with a full-sized doll, it is easier to forget that you are fucking a sex doll and not a real woman.

How Much is a Sex Doll?

How much a sex doll costs varies very highly from model to model, but a high-end sex doll such as the RealDoll will run you $6000+. Some Orient Industry dolls even cost upwards of $9000. Mid-range sex dolls are usually in the $2000 area, and you can find cheap dolls even in the $500 area. How much a sex doll SHOULD cost is largely dependent on your budget. Some sex doll stores offer financing options, but use them only if you are sure you are capable of paying them off.

For most (including myself), the price ends up being the most crucial factor in deciding which doll to buy. I wish it wasn’t the case, but sadly it is. There’s no way around it… none of us have infinite wallets and, as we all know, money does not grow on trees.

However, it seems to be the case that when it comes to sex dolls, money really does buy happiness. The most expensive sex doll makers (RealDoll and Orient Industry) also tend to have the most high-tech technology, and as a result, their dolls and tend to have the most incredible bodies and realistic features. High-end sex dolls feature titanium skeletons, artificial intelligence, ultra-realistic faces, and much, much more. Their bodies are like those of goddesses, and they look better than 99% of women out there.

It does not, however, mean that you should buy the most expensive sex doll in the world right away. There are plenty of budget options out there, and some of them look and feel close to the same level as a top-of-the-line premium doll. It can be tempting to take a loan and get a RealDoll as your first doll, but I strongly advise against it. Start with a doll that is of excellent quality, but still in the mid-range price level. For your first purchase, staying around $1000 would be my recommendation to you.

If you already own a doll and want to upgrade, then by no means — the sky is your limit. Get a whole harem of RealDolls… I know I will if I ever have the money for it!

How do Sex Dolls Work?

What a weird question. I know I am the one who wrote the question down, but still… what a weird question!

Let’s split this question into two parts, shall we? First, let’s cover how sex dolls work physically, and after that, let’s discuss how they work in terms of emotional connections.

The Physical Side

When it comes to physicality, sex dolls work very similarly to a real woman. Or, well not really. They work exactly like a real woman without all the negative aspects which usually come included in the baggage. No expensive dates, no noisy kids, and no emotional damage caused by regular relationships.

As for sex, sex dolls work mainly due to the design of their vaginas. When you fuck your sex doll, you will feel a vacuum form inside the chambers of the doll, and you will feel like you are being pulled in by the vagina. This effect is incredibly strong during oral sex as well. The vaginal and anal tunnels are molded to resemble real girls, and as a result of this, sex dolls work eerily similar to real women during sex.

The Emotional Side

Sex dolls work by creating not only a physical bond between the owners and doll but also by creating a deeper kind of emotional connection. It may seem hard to believe at first that you could love a doll. But, it’s the reality. Ask any doll owner about whether they treat their doll purely as a “fucking” object. I can guarantee that most of the answers will be negative. Falling in love with your doll is much easier than you might imagine. And, it’s not a bad thing at all. Once you learn to love someone else, you learn to love yourself as well.

After all, if you wanted just something to fuck, you could get a hooker for a fraction of the price of a sex doll. You may risk getting an STD, but at least you’ll get fucked, right? In a way, sex dolls work like regular hookers, but in a deeper way, they serve a much higher purpose.

How to Use a Sex Doll

This section will probably be the most fun out of this entire guide. After all, it’s one of the, if not THE most important questions regarding sex dolls. How do you use a sex doll? One might think that the answer to this question is simply “stick your ding-dong inside it”, but in reality, there are tons of things you can do in order to ensure maximum pleasure from your doll.

It should be noted, though, that the best method of using your personal doll depends largely on the type of doll it is. It’s difficult to give universally applicable recommendations as every doll is as unique as a real human, but I will try my best to give some general tips in this section. Let’s begin with arguably the most important part of it all:

How to Have Sex with a Sex Doll

It’s really nothing complicated. However, before you start, it’s crucial that you have a bottle of water-based lubricant at hand. I will explain why it definitely has to be water-based soon enough in this guide. For now, though, let’s discuss strategies on how to have sex with a sex doll!

The basic process of fucking a sex doll should, more or less, involve the following steps:

1. You become horny, you become lustful, and blood is rushing into your head (and penis). Oh, damn… but then you realize Stacy from work is still not ready to open her vaginal doors to you. That’s right… it’s time to bring out the doll!
2. Take out your doll from wherever it is stored and throw it in the bed (later in the review I will explore options on how to store a sex doll). Or, if it’s a silicone sex doll, you could even throw it in a hot bath for a wet sex session. Having the hot bath fuck sessions as a possibility is one of the major advantages of silicone-based sex dolls if you ask me.
3. Position the doll in any way you want (all high-quality sex dolls have skeletons inside of them, so they stay in position very easily). Personally, I love doggy-style, but occasionally I will position the doll for some missionary, or I will even have sex with the doll while standing. The possibilities are endless, but most of all… I still tend to lean towards the good old doggy style.
4. Take out your lube, and apply it generously both on yourself (well, mostly your penis) and the doll (again, mostly in the vagina, unless you are in the mood for a good blowjob from your doll).
5. You’re all set! Choose a hole and start having sex with your doll. This part does not really need much explanation, now does it? All men have a natural instinct on how to fuck women, and this definitely carries over to sex dolls as well.
6. Don’t just fuck the sex doll, have sex with her! Caress her, kiss her, grab her tits… She may not have any nerves which you can stimulate, but it’s still a fantastic feeling to grab a woman’s tits as you are pounding her.
7. I know it’s difficult to stop when you’re in the heat of the moment, but try different positions during one session. Start with some doggy, then expand into a little cowgirl mode, and… finish off with a throat fuck. Changing positions makes sex with a doll feel much more realistic, and also more exciting. Don’t be afraid to explore new options.
8. After you have finished and took some time to cool off, it’s time to clean the sex doll. As for how to clean a sex doll, the folks over at Siliconwives have put together a fantastic guide to cleaning sex dolls, so I recommend you check it out. In order to get the most years out of your doll, you need to take care of it properly, and cleaning the doll after each use is THE most crucial aspect of the caring process.
9. That’s about it. There’s nothing complicated to it, is there? It really is just like regular sex with a woman (but without all the extra emotional baggage included).

What is the Best Lube to Use on a Sex Doll?

I mentioned earlier that you should ALWAYS use water-based lubes on sex dolls. The reason for this is that silicone- and other oil-based lubes start reacting with the silicone material of sex dolls. Very quickly, your doll will become stained, it will lose its beauty, and eventually, it will become downright broken. Water-based lubricants, however, don’t react with any material, and they are safe to use on absolutely anything. Check out our guide for finding the best water-based lubes right here on CyberDear. It was mostly written with regular sex toys in mind, but the top picks are still absolutely valid for sex dolls as well.

Some people will say that for TPE sex dolls, it’s okay to use silicone-based lubes, but I have found this to be absolutely not true. After less than half a year of using silicone lube on my TPE doll, it started to become stained. Thankfully, not catastrophically, but it’s still visible to this day. Needless to say, after I noticed the staining, I stopped using silicone lubes for sex dolls altogether. And I advise you to do the same. Stay with water-based lubes and you will never have any problems.

How to Hide & Store a Sex Doll

There are as many possibilities for storing your sex doll as there are sex doll owners. Each owner tends to come up with new and creative solutions to this predicament, but I will list some of the more common strategies here. If you think one of these solutions could work for you, then storing, and even hiding your sex doll should be a non-issue.

Hanging Position

According to sex doll stores and manufacturers, this is THE most efficient way of storing sex dolls. Most sex dolls come with a hook in the neck part (the heads can be removed) which can be hung inside a closet just like your coat. This allows the doll to hand in a natural position, without the feet or body touching the ground. In addition, this storage solution prevents the doll from direct sunlight and other accidental damages.

And, finally, it’s a super convenient way to hide your sex doll from curious eyes. How often do you have someone come into your bedroom and clean your closet? If the answer is rarely or never, then no one will find your sex doll while it’s hanging in the closet.

Sex dolls hanging in a storage room

So far, hanging has been for me the most efficient and easy method to store my sex dolls. I do require two full cabinets for my doll collection, but compared to having them all sitting or standing all around the house it’s a far more convenient solution.

I should mention, though, that you need to buy a strong closet rod, which can handle the weight of the doll. I learned this first-hand when I heard a sudden “THUMP” in my closet, and opening the cabinet door sent a whole army of fallen sex dolls my way. A fascinating sight, no doubt, but one which I would prefer to avoid in the future. Therefore, I now own a cabinet rod made from chrome. That thing can withstand anything!

Sitting Position

Now, if you don’t have access to a hanger, you will have to start considering the alternatives. One of those is placing the doll in a sitting position either on a chair or on the ground.

The effectiveness of this storing solution largely depends on your doll, amongst other things. If you have a doll with a high-quality skeleton that holds positions easily, then a sitting position should not be a problem, even without any fixing methods. However, a few of my cheaper dolls tend to move their positions ever-so-slightly after a long period of time, and this can cause the doll to fall out of its chair eventually.

I would recommend you to secure your sex doll to the chair somehow if you are planning to use the sitting position storing solution. This will prevent the doll from falling down and getting damaged accidentally. However, you should be very careful with the fixing process, because too much pressure on the skin of the doll for a long period of time will inevitably cause damage. When your doll is in storage mode, it HAS to be without any extra added pressure.

Laying position

This position goes without further explanation, doesn’t it?

If your bedroom is in a location away from direct sunlight and high temperatures, then storing your doll in the bed with you is a totally acceptable “storing solution”. In fact, during most nights I have at least one of my dolls with me in bed. As my collection is large, I tend to swap them out regularly, but nonetheless — my bed is almost never empty.

Beds are soft, and when laying on your bed, there will be no damage done to your doll. As long as the doll does not get any direct sunlight, high temperatures, or pressure against the skin. I know storing your new doll in the bed seems a very attractive solution at first. After all, who does not love a little cuddling and caressing in the bedroom? I know I do, and that is why I kept my first doll in the bed with me for close to half a year. Only after I had already ordered a second doll did I invest in a doll closet.

Conclusion

Buying a sex doll is not a decision that should be taken lightly, as this decision can have a massive impact on your lifestyle. You might find that you will start lacking any motivation to pursue women. If you are not comfortable with having a doll as a partner, then don’t get a sex doll.

If, however, you want to try something new, and you are capable of keeping an open mind, then sex dolls could add a bit of extra spice to your life. If used well, sex dolls are incredible. I know I will be buying plenty more of them in the future.